HOW IT HAPPENED :
His name was Sunusi that time i was in SS 1 when it happened the time there was scarcity of water and a notice from water broad so normally when i come back from school we will fetch water.
so one day i came back and i was fetching water wit my nephew hamza in the night, that was after isha. Sunusi & one of our neigbours Tanko were always sitting opposite my dad's mosques. so I always greet them and continue my daily routines as usual.
So i notice that when am coming out of my house cox our house is facing the mosque, he will pause the game his is playing and start staring untill i get to where am fetching water. it continued like this at a point i was Angry 😡and i said if i get there i will ask him why he was staring at me like that. but my mind told me that i should just ignore him kawai and continue with my work.
It continued like that forever and i never paid attention to him only greetings. Later water bored restored our water and i was finally 💃🏻👯 that i wont be fetching water again.
Now my mom always gives me food to give this same Sunusi and our islamiyyah mallam. When mom sent me one time, after dropping the food for them and i was on my way going when he said he want to see me that i should give him my number then i asked why should i give u my number and i don't even have a phone so he told me that he want us to be friends. i asked wiht a man? we don't do male friends in my house because we are not allow. he pleaded and i said i will talk to mom and what ever she says i will get back to you. i told my mom she was like i should collect my sis number and give him. i did just that. That from there we always communicate and that time i don't even know what they call relationship because it was not something I even know. my mom said Allah ya kawo mafi alheri Allah yasa alkhairi. I answered ameeen
One day he called and told me that I should meet him at the place i used to fetch water. i wEnt there and i sat down play and I was playing while waiting for him. soon he arrived and i greeted him as usual, he then asked me if we can't be more than friends i said as in how explain? Cause i dont understand what you mean by "more than friend" the next thing he said was i love u. hmmm i stood up and was about to go when he said i have not responded to him i just told him i will get back to you by tomorrow.
so i left for home immediately i got home and i sat my mom and my sister and told them what thdis guy said. They both ask me what was my respond was. I told them. Nothing. my mom asked me what i had in mind i said he is ok religiously, respectful humble and nice friendly almost all the qualities ladies want. he graduated from FUT minna he read computer engineering so i told them i will accept him and give it a trial because he was my first love. i ask my mom and sister for their advice they both said i should keep praying and they wish me the best of luck. i thank them and i left for my chores. days passed but i didn't tell him anything but he always asking me for my response.
in the evening after isha prayer as usual i was asked to give them their dinner so i got there and mallam was not around only Sunusi was there sitting down (my elder brother also named Tanko stays in the mosques cause he is the ladan of my dads mosque. he wasn't around too i kept the food he thanked me also said i should extend his greetings to mom and everyone At home i said ok and i was about leaving he request for my respond and told him i was praying over it he should give me time i will respond Soon.
A week later i told him that i have accepted his request and everything was be coming so interesting. love they say is blind and at those moments nothing could go wrong. gradually he was known within the area and my family and friends too
3 weeks before he finished his youth service he told me that he will be travelling to canada for his masters then after he comes back the wedding preparations will be begin and big sallah was fast approaching too i told my mom what he said and she requested to see him in the evening when she is less busy when i told him on Phone and he said OK no problem. later that day, he talked to my mom and explain things to her and mom decided she will tell daddy what was going on becAuse of his goods intentions towards me. soon my dad too had a word with him and everything was going well mom and dad called me sat me down and talked to me. they both told me what they discussed with Sunusi and the response they give him was he should bring his parent before sallah. So that both family will be in the know and before that three weeks he will be going back to Lagos and from lagos he will fly out of the country.
He told me that as soon as he gets to Lagos that the first thing he will disscuss with his family will be about us and anything they say he will let me know in shaa Allahu. so i prayed that may Allah choose the plan that is the best for us we both said ameeen. the evening before his departure i went to give him food and we were already biding farewell to each other in advance he give me a new Express music phone which was reigning then. he opened a F.B account and nimbuzz so that we can be chatting when his over there in canada since the call is expensive. i said OK. after he handed over to me i told him thank you and we will talk on the phone. i was going home when he said i should hug him and i said hug? which 1 is hug again. he then said i should come close and he will show me. i said no its not a good thing to do please. OK why not? I told him When we get married you will do what ever it is you want. i wanted to leave when he dragged me close and pin me down. i push him with all the strength in me i wanted running but he cut me again. I were struggling with him to leave me but he refused. He said he wanted to play with me i said which kind of play is this that you have to force me to come close to you. that was how he succeeded as all my shouts went onto deaf ears. i struggle and struggled but to no avail. i was in serious pain i couldnt even stand on my feet after everything has taken place. my brother came in immediately and they greeted. i told them good night and with tears in my eyes.
back at home mom and sis saw tears in my eye they were like duk cikin kewa ne haka, that am missing him and am crying? i didnt say a word i just entered the bathroom immediately i sited blood down my front and my underwear all drenched in it. i started crying and i had my bath. I couldn't tell whether my tears was more than the water on my face. I cried and cried and cried all night until i slept off. I couldnt eat for days.
the following morning i pray asuba and he gave me a call that He is ready to go i didn't want to go but mom asked me to go i went and said bye to him and some of my brothers escorted him and he left.
When he got to canada he called me and told me that he arrived safely. That he will keep in touch and so on. later he told me that i will be the one that will be calling him because it will take time before he will get use to it since he is not receiving any salary. i said i will do my best but you know how the charges are over there is he said yes i then said i won't be able to call you every day but i will do my best he said it has to be everyday if not he wont be happy and that calls and chats is the only thing that will show him i love and care about him i keep mute and i later said OK. thats how he ended the call.
i started to call him on and on and at a point my phone had issues and i lost everything including the password and emails on his birthday. So i missed his birthday. I called him later to explain what happened he started quarreling and saying all sort of things. i got angry too and i cut the call from then i never called him for while. later called and apologized. i still did my best to call in the process i lost his contact again after a while. He came back from Canada and he did not tell me i over heard it from Tanko's younger brother that he is back but their brother is yet to be back. i then called his 9ja lines and it went through that was the following year during small sallah we greeted. and i asked him you came back and you didn't border to call and tell me he then asked why have i not been calling. i told him i lost his contact ne thats Why i Didn't call again he said OK. he sympathized with me for the death of my step mom and later he told me that we cant get married. i safar why he said he want a virgin and and am too far from him. is better we become friends ok? kiyi hakuri kawai.
I said may Allah judge between us ameen. i wish you all the best no need for us to be friends anymore keep it to your self OK. ma'asalam.
that how we ended our relationship. Hope you have learned from my rape story and won't judge me. I was in SS1 and was barely 15 years old then. I have learned my lesson and I hope nothing like this ever happens to any lady. It's almost 10 years now, but I still hate what happened to me. As i grew older I got to appreciate the damage Sunusi had done to me.
Thank you for sharing my rape story.
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