MY NAME IS HANIFA IBRAHIM, I AM A 26 YEARS OLD. I AM A Pharmacist
BY PROFESSION AND I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE MY DIVORCE DIARY WITH YOU :
One can say divorce is a sweet-bitter thing for me. My name
is Hanifa Ibrahim. I got married to my ex husband three years back. I was serving
in Jigawa when we met. I was strolling back from the market one lazy evening
when he parked ahead of me; my first thought when he came out was "this is the height of handsome".
Knowing how attracted to handsome guys I was, I tried not to pay much attention
to him; my heart was beating so fast when he approached me. I had to hold tight
to the leather bag on my hand.
“Salaam Alaykum yan
mata” I dint even look at him to answer to answer him, I act as if he’s not
talking to me after all I fully know we’re the only two people close. He repeats
“Salaam Alaykum yar budurwa” I still didn’t
answer him, he then come more close to me as if he’s trying to touch me, in my
mind I say “what is this one trying to do?” He looks deep into my eyes, I look
at his too, I can tell he’s in love the way he looks at me. I stopped then he
smile and say “ina ganin kurma ce
wannnan, an ma ai na iya sign din kurame tunda naga ai ba makauniya bace” That’s
where he got me smiling, I move away from him and continue walking I hastily
answered without really stopping, though I slowed my pace. Most guys would have
thought it to be rude, but this guy continued to walk with me. He told me he
was here on a contract and he lived in Kaduna. Suraaj was so easy to talk
to and before I knew it, we were deep into the conversation. I told him I was
here for my youth Service. l had finished from Pharmacy. The long walk I was
dreading suddenly became too short. We exchanged contacts and he left.
That day, all day
long, I expected his call. I slept with a broken heart. He woke me up early the
next day and the subsequent days that followed. Deep in my heart, I knew I had
found the One. We met not too often, too seldom, and in fact loved that.
So soon, he had
finished his contract and we just spoke on phone. And sooner too I had finished
my NYSC. Eventually, our talks started becoming serious and after
all the rites and necessaries, we were soon man and wife. The first few months
of my marriage were heaven on earth and soon after our honeymoon, his
"contracts" resumed. Sometimes when he was around, l would even help
him with such designs that I could.
The sad thing was he took long times before he comes back.
Sometimes 3 weeks and sometimes even a month. I began not to care when he found
me a job and his trips were not reducing. It has never been my kind
of thing and I don't know what took me to his inbox. The conversation just
pulled me in; na gano abin da ya fi karfin tunani na.
After much
investigation and stalking, I confirmed my worst fear; When ever my husband is
away for a contract for all those weeks he’s with his first wife, I was my
husband's second wife, and that was when I resolved to leaving the house. I
didn't have the strength to fight, yell or even be angry, I was so much
heartbroken. I just told him l could not stay anymore on a relationship built
on lies and deceit. We had our little spat and he reluctantly let me with saki daya. My parents were not
happy, but I had made my decision. I was almost done with my idda
when I noticed l didn't see my period all these times. I confided that in my mom
and we went to the doctor.
I never heard any
worse news than the news of being pregnant without the father of my child (you
know what I mean). I had my baby boy in due time and that bad news became the
apple of my eye. Suraaj has allowed me to keep him, but he still says he wants
us both back. l can't deprive father from son but I still feel pained knowing
he has another wife and even kids. That is not even my problem; it is the fact
that I was deceived. And l hate to admit it, I still loves Suraaj and I cannot
bear to share him with another woman.
Thank You For Reading My Divorce Diary.
Special thanks to: Safiyya The Cat Lady for sharing with us.
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