My name is Abdullahi Abbas and I would like to share my story with you. I hail from Kwankwaso in Kano state.
I promised to myself that i will never fall inlove until when am ready to marry cause i want the next person i'll love to be my wife, because am among those that strongly believe been in relationship with someone without the plan of marrying marrying them is just a waste of time and resources. Alhmdulillah, Allah answer my prayers, from my secondary school to my IJMB i have never been in any relationship with any girl untill I met Aisha.
I met Aisha on her way coming back from school but i didnt stopped her because of respect i have for ladies, i follow her jeje to her house without her knowing am following her. I walked behind her for about 100 metre then she enter their house. I saw a young boy outside the house and asked him "Kasan Yarinyan can da ta shiga gidan nan" the boy replied yes her name is Aisha and yes thats where she live. I said Alhamdulillah and go my way.
The following day i dressed in Kaftan and go straight to Aisha's house, upon reaching the house i ask for the audience of Aisha's father to seek for permission to start coming for "Zance" and her dad approved my request. I sent somebody to call her out, and tell her why i come to see her and she said no problem but she told me that she have never been in any romantic relationship with anyone in fact i'm the first person that ever come to her house and call her outside in form of "Zance". Thats how we started our relationship, I'll call her on phone when ever I don't have time to come we'll talk.
Problems start, I started seeing other guys whenever I come to her house for " Zance", everyday is a different person and different stories, but am not surprise considering the fact that am her first boyfriend and an the one that get her freedom to bring other guys home because whenever she's coming out she will tell her mum that I'm the one that call her out even when am not the one. I can remember I asked her to tell me the truth if she change her mind about me she should tell me to find my way out cause I can't take coming to her house everyday and see a different guy with her but she said no am still her number one choice and she's only exploring other guys. She later said she will stop she's only testing my patience cause she know I have or I have been patience with her and she will never come out to anyone apart from me.
Our love continue be stronger everyday, on Wednesday I can remember cause I'll never forget that day, Aisha called me and told me that she is satisfy with all my character and am the person she want to marry, the person she want to live with forever to cut it short I should send my family to their house to finalize every thing. I was happy with that news, I go straight to my Uncle house and told him the good news he said he will come to my house in the evening and talk to my dad about it. Fast forward, everything went well no problem except the little one that you can never escape in every marriage.
Aisha is now my wife and in my house, a week after marriage but nothing happen between us in bed, in those 7 days I completely turn to Sheikh in order to explain what Allah says about a wife that turns down her husband request when she's perfectly healthy and strong. After 3 months she told me a good news that she's pregnant. I was very Happy with the news.
Aisha start acting lazy at home more than a normal pregnant woman, I understand that's why I didn't complain at first I'll even help her with some house chore but it then reached to a stage that in the morning she won't even say good morning to me or good bye when am going for work and if I come back the same thing "ba sannu da zuwa KO ga ruwa kasha" I didn't want any of our parents to know what is going with us so I call her sisters and explain to them and told them to talk to her if there is anything that am doing or I did to her that made her that way she should tell them so they can explain to me cause I asked her she all she said is nothing and she also said the same thing to them.
I decided to add a new wife, her sister call me and told me that their mother want to see me, I went to see her and she said she heard that am getting a new wife? I assured her Yes and she said she's not against it but all she want is for me to continue taking care of my wife (her daughter) and please I should not change in anyway after I bring in a new wife, that's how I used that opportunity and explain everything from A-Z to her. Her mum convince me and assured me she will talk to Aisha and insha Allah she will change, I even introduce the girl I intend to marry to her mum cause I love doing my things openly. After I'm back home her mum calls me and convince me again and she made me drop my marriage plan.
Aisha come to her senses after her mum intervened, after a months Aisha returned to her "rashin mutunci way" I decided to go ahead and add another wife all in the process of bringing a competition to the house just to allow peace to reigns. But this time she gets backing from her sisters and Aisha "rashin Mutunci increase to *2".
One of her sister that always support me and advice me to be patience with Aisha this time around turned against me and start telling people that am not feeding her sometimes she's the one that bring food to Aisha at home, she used what I once told her that 3 months and yet to receive my salary but only Allah can bear me witness during all those month there is no single day Aisha will wake up and say no enough food in my house cause I make sure I buy enough food stuff, I rather stay without a single kobo in my wallet than not to have food at home.
There was a certain day I came back from work early and my wife is not at home and I know she didn't tell me she's going out, she came back in the evening and I asked her where she's coming from she refused to answer me and I told her if she's not going to tell me she should go back to where she come from then Aisha told me " KO ba ka ce ba komawa zanyi ai" I said "Aisha do you know what you're telling me"? She said Yes and even continue abusing me and my parents, I didn't know when I slapped her! Before I take my hand down Aisha slapped me too that's when I show her who the real man is, am not proud of beating her but sometimes you have to show someone who is in control.
Aisha said she can't continue living with me because I don't take care of her, no food, clothing or even pockets money. I was surprise because I know Aisha take some of the raw foods from the store and give to her sisters including the one that first bring the idea into her head.
After the incidence she went to her aunt's house. I was expecting a call from her, then after magrib prayer she came along with her aunt's son to pick some of her clothes and other belongs. As at then my 2nd wife's phone was with her (when Aisha's phone was faulty she gave her one of her phones, which means they were living peacefully). She gave Halima her phone while she was trying to stop her from going, but she ignored her and left. That night I had no enough credit on my phone, I then text her cousin to inform her mum what was going on. Unknown to me, that created an opportunity for them to plan evil against me. That night, her immediate sister whom I normally reported Aisha to, cause I don't want her mum to be worried of her misbehaviour called and insulted me as she wished.
The following morning I was foolishly worried of the condition of her mum, I just heard "Assalamu Alaikum" I recognize its Aisha mum's voice, the first time ever she steped to my house since I married her daughter, I ushered her to the sitting room. Hmm the nemesis began. I was expecting her to asked what happened, she started accusing me of maltreating her girl, that my wife insulted her. I was mad by such rubbish utterances from someone I respected much, I kept hurting myself to prevent her anger. I shouted back in anger, "Are here to enquire what goes wrong or are you here to read what you planned against me?" Then she calmed down, I narrated everything to her. Then my cousin who was around when the had the misunderstanding for long time told the mum what really happened which I was not aware, but I sat them down and warned them, since then nothing ever happened before that incident. What happened was, Aisha said "tsinanniya" ce ke support her husband, then Halima said she was assisting me because she want to saves her marriage unlike Aisha da a kai min Talla. That was what hurts them most.
All these problems started when Aisha came back from her parent less than a week. After the mum left for the Aunt's house, I was at home then she came and start parking her belongings to her room and left, her mum took her away.
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